Any and all holidays are Triggers for myself and my siblings. Our Nmom would pick a victim or 2 every holiday. Christmas was the worst. When you’re the one with nothing but a 5 dollar gift it’s brutal. Complain and you’re made out as nmom’s abuser with real tears then hitting. Fourth of July? Oh you have a date and sewed your own outfit and are walking out the door? Nothing Scares Me I’m A Vizsla Dog Mom Happy Halloween Day T-Shirt Nope you have been bad stay home and clean while we all go somewhere else.. Good news is I now have a husband that was also raised by nparents. We understand the triggers and work hard to make holiday activities stress free. Good news is I now have a husband that was also raised by nparents. We understand the triggers and work hard to make holiday activities stress free.
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Goddamn this is my NMom to a T on Christmas as well. Spending money on clothes and things that I would never wear or never use. The worst part is how ungrateful you come across when you decline to take the stuff home. The gaslighting about what “you like” hits home too. Brings back that overwhelmingly empty feeling that Nothing Scares Me I’m A Vizsla Dog Mom Happy Halloween Day T-Shirt are just incapable of really listening to you. You said it perfectly. The gifts aren’t for you. They’re giving “the gift of giving” to themselves. Also for that sweet emotional leverage. Nothing quite warms the heart like having your parents remind you of all the shit they bought for you that you never asked for when you step out of line. Ah the holidays~ I used to take it home and ebay it. I mean, might as well get a little cash back for all the bullshit I had to put up with, right?
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I think it’s pretty common for abused kids of all kinds to dislike family holidays. I hated Christmas for years, until I realised it’s not really that I hate Christmas or any other holiday, it’s just that I hated Christmas with my mum and dad. I think realising I could have Christmas on my terms made a big difference to me. I can choose what I do and who I see. Some years I’ve been alone, some years it’s just been me and my husband and other years I have gone to events and parties with people I like. Nothing Scares Me I’m A Vizsla Dog Mom Happy Halloween Day T-Shirt Last year SO and I went away for a week at the beginning of December- there was a festival in the village we stayed in and we had a lovely time, saw the fireworks, sang carols and just enjoyed the cameraderie of being with lots of happy people and no family.